Best Top 10 Flirting Tips

Some people are natural flirts, but what if you're not one of those people? We've compiled 10 expert tips on flirting that even the most timid of singles can use.


  1. Flirting is an attitude :A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive — it works!
  2. Start a conversation : The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help or state an opinion.
  3. Have fun : Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.
  4. Use props : Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, unusual ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.
  5. Be the host : Change your behavior from guest to host. You are not a passive person waiting around for romance; instead, you're the welcome committee
  6. Make the first move : Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello.
  7. Listen : You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.
  8. Eye contact : Please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than a few seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare — it's a turn off.
  9. Compliment : Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirter" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment, the best response is a simple "Thank you!"
  10. Smile : It's contagious. Smiling makes you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You'll be a people magnet.

    By Fran Greene
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The Chemistry of Kissing

You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss… hang on a minute. No it isn’t! Because when it comes to dating, a kiss can change everything. Sometimes it’s spine-tinglingly magical and sends shivers from your neck to your toes. And sometimes, well, it feels more like licking a wet fish. While the chemistry you feel on your night out says a lot about how the kiss might go, there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of butterflies, chills, fireworks, and other memory-making moments. Try these lip-smacking tips to make this the first of many kisses to come.

Read when the moment is right

Ever found yourself bumbling and mumbling at the end of a date, wondering if your attempt at a good night smack will be the kiss of death? You’re not alone. “This is, without a doubt, one of the most common questions people ask me,” says Sheila Lee, creator of advice site Kissingbooth.com. So how do you tell if someone would welcome a smooch from you? According to Lee, look for these signs: Is your date making tons of eye contact with you, or standing closer than a friend or business colleague would? If so, says Lee, this person probably wants you to go for it.

If you really can’t read your date, make yourself available for your date to make the move. Lee’s suggestions: Stand close to your date, and let your arm rub against his or hers. Face your date with your arms open, not crossed, to show you’re open to a kiss. Tell your date you had a good time, and ask your date how they felt. And most important? “Smile. A lot of people are turned on by a smile, which shows you’re comfortable with the person you’re with and happy. If your date thinks he or she is making you happy,” points out Lee, “then he or she is likely to think a kiss can make you even happier.”

Lock lips in a place where you don’t have to hold back

Yes, it’s romantic to kiss, say, out on a street corner, but if you’re not the PDA type, you might end up holding back during your kiss. And those unsure feelings could hold back a fireworks-worthy performance. The fact is, kissing signals our brains to produce oxytocin, a hormone that gives us that wonderful, weak-kneed feeling.And the chemicals that produced that feeling prompt you to want to kiss more and create more, like a love drug. To make sure nothing stops that chemistry-building chemical process, make sure you’re in a spot where you feel comfortable and safe, and you’re not worried about what you’re doing or who’s watching: Move inside a doorway, behind a column, into a quiet room, or in the front seat of a dark car. That way, you and your date’s bodies will be free to do what they’re — ahhhhh, sigh, melt — supposed to.

Make eye contact before, during, and after your kiss

Eye contact immediately ups the intimacy level of any sexual act, say experts—so if you’re smooching with your peepers shut tight, you could be missing out! Even recently-single singer Jessica Simpson is a fan of opening her eyes during a smooch. “I love to kiss with my eyes open,” she’s said. “It’s kind of weird because you might only see one eyeball, but it’s amazing what you can see through someone’s eyes. It sounds clich├ęd, but the eyes really are the window to the soul.” So, before you go for gold, take a few seconds — one Mississippi, two Mississippi — to look at your partner eye-to-eye and establish this is a special moment between the two of you. After you first kiss, pull back, open your eyes, really look at your date, then kiss again. Then, open your eyes once during the kiss to bring the personal touch home.

Feel free to talk a little

Kissing is such a strong language, it’s easy to wonder: Does yapping in between smooches ruin the moment? Not always. In fact, says Michael Christian, author of The Art of Kissing, sometimes words can help ratchet up the chemistry. According to his research, the absolute number one sentence that kissers most like to hear: “You’re such a good kisser.” Following that, he suggests you also say either, “You’re so beautiful,” “You’re so hot,” or “I never want to stop kissing you.” These kinds of words do two things. “One, they show that you’re serious about the particular person you’re kissing, and that it’s truly personal,” says Christian. “Two, it communicates that you’re in the first stage of what your body wishes was a bigger, closer connection. Your feelings are so huge, you’re having to hold back. This says it’s not just a kiss, it’s the start of something incredible.” Let’s be honest, who doesn’t want to know they’re causing that?

Keep your hands to yourself

Sometimes we get so caught up in the human contact of a kiss, we grip our partner’s neck, reach around his or her back, run a hand along a thigh, and do all sorts of a grabby things over and, ahem, under clothing. The only problem? Sometimes all that touching is actually detracting from the kiss, say experts. A kiss, on its own, can sometimes be powerful enough. So, try keeping your hands to yourself for a few minutes, kiss and only kiss, and see how the chemistry takes over.

Don’t forget to use your nose

Some anthropologists believe that kissing evolved from sniffing, as some indigenous cultures rub noses rather than kissing, points out Vaughn Bryant professor of anthropology at Texas A&M University. “Turns out that we have very powerful musk glands right underneath our eyes, and each person has a distinct smell,” explains Vaughn. “Kissing got started by people smelling each other and they would rub across the nose. Touching the lips was a natural outgrowth.” Sampling another person’s scent is a primal urge we share with other animals (including moles, dolphins, turtles and dogs), so take a moment to breathe in your date to kick the connection up a notch.

Convince your date to try the kiss your way

You loved the dinner, you laughed the whole way home, and you were living for the good night kiss… until you got it. Turns out your date doesn’t kiss the way you do. Has your chemistry fizzled for good? No way! So what’s the best way to get your styles more in synch? Don’t ever say, "I don’t like the way you kiss" that will be a big blow to the ego, and will make women self-conscious the next time you kiss.” One option is to make the issue about you, by saying something like, "I like to kiss a little different than most people" which will make them feel at ease (kind of like the old-fashioned “It’s not you, it’s me” line). Or, suggest you both branch out and experiment so that they won’t take the change in kissing personally. Say, ‘I want to try something" and then initiate a kiss the way you want it.
By Amy Spencer

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The 10 Best Places to Kiss


You lucky single person, you - your dating days are full of adventure and kisses shared in dimly-lit restaurants and on street corners. But where, we wondered, are the very best places to lock lips? You already know about the beach at sunset, under the mistletoe and right smack dab on the mouth. Here, more superior smooch sites to check out when you're ready to make out.

  1. On a roller coaster : Yes, love has its ups and downs, but that's what keeps it exciting. Kiss at the crest of that first big hill and hang on to each other as you plummet - talk about a rush!
  2. On your desk : Research shows that as many as 61 percent of relationships start in the workplace, and 50 percent of office amours lead to marriage (that includes this writer!). So if you're flirting by the coffee machine or bantering at brainstorming sessions and it isn't against company rules, take it to the next level (after hours, please; discretion is important!). Don't have a desk job? Find the nearest supply closet.
  3. At a museum : Appreciating a beautiful work of art together can create passion. Why waste it? Give in, whether inspired by Picasso's The Lovers at the National Gallery of Art in Washington, D.C., or a romantic, moving piece at a local gallery.

  4. In the middle of a crowded street : Preferably at rush hour on any given Monday. Life can be mundane and hectic at the same time, but a sweet, juicy kiss can make an average moment special.
  5. In a dressing room : Are you the type who's turned on by the idea of a public display of affection but would prefer some darned privacy? The dressing room rendezvous affords the best of both worlds. Plus, it has illicit allure (sneaking someone in where he or she technically isn't supposed to go) without setting off theft detectors.
  6. On a pile of coats : Preferably, with a stranger you met at the party. It's a mating rite of passage everyone should experience at least once. Guaranteed to irritate other guests!
  7. Upside down : You don't need Spidey skills to pull it off. One person simply sits in a chair and tilts his or her head back while the other person approaches from behind, bends over and plants one. Or try it with one person lying on a couch, head against the armrest, and the other person standing above and leaning over. It's a little awkward, a little weird - and absolutely wonderful.
  8. In the backseat : Find yourselves a lover's lane, climb into the passion pit, and neck till you steam up the windows. It's retro romantic.

  9. In a downpour : Yes, kissing in the rain is kind of cliche, but if you haven't tried it, please do. The reason this kiss rules? Everyone else is frantically running for shelter, which makes time seem to stop for the two of you. It's surreal, and very sexy.
  10. In bed, while one of you is asleep : You know from fairy tales that the kiss that awakens can lead to happily ever after. There's simply no lovelier way to wake up. As the kisser, however, you're advised to refrain if the kiss is recuperating from a double shift after a bout of insomnia.
    by Nina Malkin
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Secrets of Great Conversation

Making successful small talk with someone you've just met isn't rocket science, but it does demand more effort than tossing out a tired opening line. The added pressure of a social situation — a date, a party, an encounter at a singles club — may tie your tongue into knots. The best thing is to ignore what's going on around you and concentrate on the person at hand. If you show that you are interested, you'll be surprised how quickly people open up.
To get the ball rolling, here are five practical principles for starting a conversation when you don't know what to say.

Flattery will get you everywhere
Make with the compliments to begin on a positive note. People are inclined to think well of you if you indicate you think well of them. The trick is picking out what to compliment without including some kind of sexual connotation.

Props
Women work hard choosing their accessories, and anyone who notices wins points. "Those shoes are sensational. Are they comfortable?"
Check out a guy's tie, glasses and watch. Look at his feet. I have a mild-mannered cousin who indulges himself by choosing socks with wild patterns. Always carry a book or newspaper. Then, if your new acquaintance doesn't have anything obvious to remark on, you have, "Have you read this?"

Redirection
People love to share their enthusiasm for their hobbies. If you meet someone jogging, see if you can spark some shoptalk. And vice versa. If you're at work, ask them what they like to do to relax. Try to discover what is not obvious—the mind in the sexy blonde, the animal in the geek.

Ask more than yes/no questions
A question demands a response, which is the essence of conversational give-and-take. But a yes/no query can bog you down in monosyllables. Think like a reporter: Ask who, what, when, where and why. Instead of, "Did you see the latest Bruce Willis movie?" try, "What did you think of it?"

Listen, really listen, to the other person.
Shy people who have trouble making conversation are so anxious about what they are going to say next that they don't listen to what the other person says. Every answer to your intriguing questions opens up new conversational avenues to explore. Follow up on those leads. As an added bonus, the more you concentrate on the other person, the less your palms will sweat, the fewer words for you to stumble over. And your new acquaintance is bound to be charmed by your astute appreciation of his or her own sterling qualities.
By Marcy Barack

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How to survive a holiday breakup


Break ups are all the more difficult to handle when they happen during festive season, when the rest of the world is busy celebrating.

None of your friends have the time to sympathize and listen to your sad tales. But all is not lost. Here are a few tips to help you get through the holidays.Break up during the holidays can be stressful enough. Before you go into hiding and decide to boycott the fun, get back on track with these tips for handling a split.

Bond with your family

Use your newly found single status to bond with your family. If you were with your ex, you'd have to sacrifice you time with your family to be with him. But now you don't have to. Take it positively by thinking that you won't have to miss out on your family time anymore.

Reach out to friends

When you're single, you often spend much more time with friends, and now is the perfect time to reconnect with your social circle. Spend time with your friends. Make the most of your time with them and let them cheer you up.

Better yourself

Take the time to re-focus your attention on bettering yourself. You have a lot of time to reflect on your life and get things sorted. Use this downtime to focus on you. Read inspirational books, maintain a dairy or work on a creative project. Use this time off to grow your relationship with yourself and begin the New Year with a fresh attitude.

Be of help to others

The best way to put your breakup into perspective is to help others. When you're single you have a great opportunity to share your love with those who need it most. You can volunteer at an NGO event or wrap gifts for underprivileged kids. Helping others will make you feel good and pull you out of your post-breakup rut.
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David beckham and posh's hot marriage tips


Marriage Tips-Relationship Advice Ten years down the line in a marriage, most couples find it hard to keep their relationships steady, but that’s not the case with the soccer ace David Beckham and his wife Victoria. The couple will celebrate 10 years of wedded bliss on July 4 and their love seems to be growing stronger every year.

Now, love psychologist Susan Quilliam has revealed the marriage commandments that keep them together, reports the News of the World.

  1. Give each other space - Absence makes the heart grow fonder, especially when living on different continents. While David is playing football in Italy, Victoria keeps herself busy juggling family life and her fashion career in the States.
    "Separate interests keep their love fresh and alive. They make the most of, and live for, the time they spend together," says Quilliam.
  1. Forgive and forget - David’s downfall came in 2004 in the form of Rebecca Loos, 32.
    "The Beckhams were obviously able to talk through their problems, learnt to understand one another, and then put it behind them," says Quilliam.
  2. Family comes first - The Beckhams have produced a hat-trick of gorgeous sons: Brooklyn, 10, Romeo, six, and break-dancing Cruz, four.
    "When you’re in a loving marriage and know you can weather any storm, having a child can bring you even closer, provide a focus for your love and give you a shared job to do,” says Quilliam.
  3. Be each other’s cheerleader - The couple idolises each other.
    “Victoria’s made many sacrifices, but both have genuinely admired and supported the other. Be proud of what your partner does - and tell them so,” says Quilliam.
  4. Dress for marriage success - The Beckhams ensure their glamour dial is always cranked up to 11 on nights out.
    “It’s a sign of disrespect to your partner to let yourself go. By taking care of themselves, David and Victoria help keep the lust alive,” says Quilliam.

  5. When two become one - Their penchant for copycat behaviour is a sure-fire sign of a successful relationship.
    “While individuality is important, their ‘matching’ styles, and the overlap between them, shows the world they have a rock-solid partnership - they think, feel and act the same,” says Quilliam.
  6. All you need is love - Victoria and David travel thousands of miles to spend one night together.
    “They’re constantly declaring their love. Just saying: ‘I love you’ every day goes a long way in keeping romance alive,” says Quilliam.
  7. The in-laws are not the enemy - The secret of a happy relationship is a happy family. With their hectic schedules, David and Victoria would be lost without Sandra and Jackie, their respective mothers-in-law, who regularly travel with the family, acting as babysitters and allowing the couple to spend precious time alone.
    “The Beckhams know the importance of making their mums feel involved and valued. They give the family stability and are a vital source of support,” says Quilliam.
  8. Never air your dirty laundry in public - Behind the scenes, Posh and Becks have had their fair share of humdinger rows. But unlike other celebrity couples, they’re careful never to argue or criticise each other in public.
    “David and Victoria have such a public profile that even the slightest hint of tension would quickly come back to haunt them. They never criticise or bad-mouth each other, and if anything negative happens, they close ranks,” says Quilliam.
  9. Spice up (Sex) life - Posh is regularly seen scouring LA’s sex shops and stocking up on red-hot goodies. And David often buys sexy underwear for his missus.
    “Love thrives on physical passion. Shared pleasure and sex binds them together and helps them get through stressful times,” says Quilliam
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Why men, women can't think alike

The battle of the sexes starts in the brain's speech centre, Alan Pease tells Bachi Karkaria

Gloria Steinman said, "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle". Not knowing the secret cycling desires of bassa and sea bass, I cannot vouch for the total truth of this remark. But, since nature didn't use the hermaphrodite earthworm as the model for human sexual wiring, and happily chose to put different circuitry into our two genders, we do have to deal with blown fuses all the time.

Scientists, sociologists and agony aunts have made a lifetime's search and living from the man-woman equation. Through different math, and varying degrees of scholarship, they have arrived at conclusions which ordinary couples discover on a daily basis: namely can't live with, can't live without.

So everyone has had to enter into a conspiracy of convenience and shrug that common ground is unattainable because the thinking processes of the two genders are as manifestly different as their genetalia. The American Jhon Gray passed the buck on a cosmic scale with his seminal book Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The more down to earth British-Australian couple, Allan & Barbara Pease, have produced such bestsellers as Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps and Why Men Need Sex and Women Want Love, apart from The Definitive Book of Body Language.

At the recent Mumbai Fully Booked: The Times of India Literary Carnival, I shared the stage with Allan Pease. The very attractive Barbara was on her own lecture circuit, which is just as well, because the two together would have been too formidable a match.

The main point of conflict according to Allan (and Barbara) is that when women talk, they are merely 'downloading'. Their men, whose thought paths are quite different, think that they are seeking solutions and so offer what they consider to be sage and superior advice. Women, interrupted in midflow, are furious; the men are bemused/ offended; one accusation leads to another; and before you know it, as Allan put it, the 'man is forced to go camping'.

The Pease theory attributes the 'You don't talk to me/ Don't interrupt me/ You don't listen to anything' conundrum to the 'scientifically proven' fact that 'speech centres' in the male brain are few and far between. So, men have to grope for a response. Indeed, they subconsciously have to go on a massive search and self-rescue mission before being able to produce a meaningful sentence. On the other hand, there's such a profusion of speech centres in the female brain that they can unleash a verbal barrage without a second thought.

This is why a five-year-old girl will prattle away, and a boy at that age will be dragged into therapy by his anxious mother. Sons only catch up when their (better) spatial ability and logic is called for, when they start doing math and science.

According to Pease, women in a group will all talk at the same time - and all of them will be hearing, and following, everything, whereas a man will have completely lost the plot. That's because men instinctively wait their turn before speaking (a theory totally disproved every night on our television news channels).

The Peases use the Rodin Factor to explain one more area of malefemale discord. They say that the iconic 'Thinker' could only have been sculpted in the male form. Men need to go up on a figurative rock to think over their problems - and they have to do so in solitude. Another man would never dream of hauling himself up there to help him out. A woman on the other hand, will instinctively clamber up to offer him solace if not solutions, and will immediately be pushed off. Result: sulks and, yes, the camp cot.

It's easy to dismiss much of this as being patronising - or just pat. Yet, if the two sides did accept these basic differences in wiring, there would be fewer domestic explosions. But then how can a woman think like a man? And how could a man ever deign to think like a woman?
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First date dos and don'ts

Yes, the day you have been waiting for has come true. Someone has asked you out and you want to look your best and make that first impression so it can last forever. Nervous? Don't be. For, here are a few to make you feel comfortable.

Clothes make the man: This is the universal truth. Though we don't mean man literally here, it applies to women too. To be comfortable, it's important that you wear something in which you are comfortable. You may want to borrow your friend's stiletto heel to fake your height, but remember no experiments on first day. It's all about who you are, so don't wear anything that makes you conscious.

Choose a good deo/perfume: Body odour is a major put off. How you smell matters a lot. And for guys and girls who smoke, make sure you brush your teeth or have a gum in your teeth to keep your breath fresh. Use your regular deo or perfume. Remember what smells good on your friend may have the same effect on you. So it's safe to be original.

Choose a quiet place for meeting: This is your first meeting so make sure the place you are going to hang out is not crowded where you have to shout to hear each other. Remember this meeting is for you to know each other better, so your first stop should be at a quiet place.

Be modest: Don't let the conversation be all about yourself. You are not there for a job interview so let the other person talk. Once you reach a comfort level, you can be at ease to begin your self-boasting session.

Speak about mutual interests: This helps for future meetings. Should you both have interest in music or books, then perhaps you both could go book shopping or attend a music concert together.

Keep your cell phone away: Unless absolutely necessary, do not fiddle with your cell phone. This will only distract you both away from the conversation. Make full use of the time to talk about each other's interests.

Graduate: Both of you are mutually interested, do not have anything to talk, but want to keep company. Then you can perhaps take off to a movie so that you can have little conversation, but enjoy each other's company. A word of caution: Don't choose a drama or horror movie. Comedy or even romantic (if you both are up to it) genre would do.

Exchange contacts: You wished the day lasted forever, but alas it has ended! All is not lost yet, exchange email ids and telephone numbers. You can perhaps also add him/her on your facebook. Her facebook should give a better insight into the real person!
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Relationship Advice For Women - Do's and Don't

Most books about relationships are cut-out for both male and female, but we all know that it works differently for both sides so why would you read about something that is not specifically written for you. Here is the relationship advice for you that understands what you are going through right now.

When He’s Annoying
Women must understand that men are indeed annoying. They don’t call, they come home late, they forget things, they don’t want to do things. It makes you wonder why you even fell for that smile and smooth talking when you get a toddler for a boyfriend. You might think you have the worst one in town but here’s the thing: they are all like that. One way or the other that perfect someone of yours is going to act up and it is going to be difficult. What you have to do is simply ignore him when he is like that and get on with your life. As if you notice anything. Most likely he’s just doing it to get a reaction from you. And the moment he sees it is not working, he’ll stop.

When Nagging Doesn't Work
Surely nagging is not included in any relationship advice for women that you can find. But why do women do it anyway, because that is who you are. And that is why you should understand that guys are just guys. By nature they do things that drive women crazy. And so here’s the deal, you make a list of things that bother you and see which ones you can let go of. Imagine how much money you would save years from now for Botox.

Now those that bother you, let him know about it by being straightforward. Do not cry or get too emotional because he would just shut you off like he does when he’s watching TV and you want him to help you in the kitchen. Now even if you had this discussion and it still would not work simply pull back. Men responds to actions not to words. Pretty soon he’d wonder what is going on. Normally by this time she would nag at 40 words per second by now if I did not call her. And pretty soon he would be behaving as he should be.

When He’s Wondering Whether He Should be in this Relationship
If your boyfriend brought up the idea of being away from each other, having a temporary break, or seeing other people then it’s as good as breaking up without the deal of being the bad guy. This also includes if he’s not sweet anymore or is being cold to you lately. If that relationship advice for women has convinced you to make him this fabulous dinner, take a shower and wear the skimpiest outfit you can find, throw away that book immediately. You have been doing your best all the time and the last thing you want to hear is he is thinking about whether you are worth it. Well, I suggest you help him pack now because not because you are nice but rather because you are nice to yourself. You do not need a guy who makes you insecure about yourself and who do not appreciate who you are. This is not some game to convince him that you’re worth it. It’s about you deciding if he’s even worth all this trouble.

Any relationship advice for women would ask you to go after the guy, play nice, don’t say anything that might push his buttons. However, what you must understand is that men don’t need this when they look for a woman that might be the one. Otherwise they could just hire someone to be their assistant. He needs someone that could level up with him, someone he’d be interested with for the rest of his life and being someone that you’re not is the last thing that he needs. Oh let me rephrase that, it’s not what YOU need.

You should:
  • Pay him compliments and give him presents (even flowers)
  • Introduce him to your friends and don’t ask him to give up his friends
  • Ring the doorbell even if you have a key to his door (would you like to be taken unaware in your own bathroom?)
  • Go with him to a football game (he shouldn't think that you are going to be a football fan)
  • If you bump into your ex, try to ignore him (even if he looks great and you are not over him)
  • Tell him how clever he is (at least once a week)
  • Not try hard to win his confidence and make him a member of your family -- you are with him because you like him and you should always show it to him
  • Never criticize his friends, even if you feel like killing some of them; give him a chance to spend time with them
  • Try not to focus on his defects
  • Control your jealousy of his children if he’s divorced; - let him spend time with his children
You should not
  • Tell him about your past relationships in great detail
  • Spy on him -- it’s a sign of distrust and a total lack of self-confidence
  • Stop looking after yourself
  • Vocalize your admiration for Kevin Costner or Tom Cruise on your first movie date
  • Fixate on his past love affairs and give all his girlfriends an angry look -- you should try to make them your allies
  • Take your girlfriend with you everywhere just because the poor girl is so lonely
  • Date married men because it’s in poor taste and things are going to go wrong
  • Try to be his children’s mother: they already have a mother
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Relationship Advice for Men - Why It's Okay To Take Things Slow Sometimes

One thing in relationship that most men seem to have in common is the need to try and rush things when they feel like they have fallen in love with a woman. You might think it would be noble to rush into things without thinking about it when it truly is love, but that is not always the best decision that you can make. In fact, quite often it can lead to many more problems than to solutions.


The urge to rush when you feel as though you have found the "one" is nothing new. Even back in the earliest times of written history, there have been tales of guys falling for a woman and deciding not to waste one moment as they knew it was the right woman for them. While it may always work out in fairy tales and other historically romantic literature, in the every day relations... it can sometimes backfire on you.
Here are some reasons why you may want to take it slow sometimes:
1) Rushing into a relationship with a woman can cause you to see her only through rose colored glasses.
Many men who end up with a woman who turns out to be nothing but trouble for them made the mistake of taking things too fast and not slowing down when they should have. Because of this, it can be easy to see a woman through rose colored glasses, as in... you see only the good that you want to see and ignore the rest. If she truly is the right woman, then she would still be the one if you were to wait things out. And in doing so, you can get a chance to see what she is really all about and possibly avoid ending up with a woman who is nothing but trouble.
2) You also don't want to make her feel that you possibly are in desperation mode.
A guy can give off a desperation vibe in a relationship if he is not careful and he is trying to move things too swiftly with a woman. As you should already know, desperation is not a virtue in the eyes of most women. By taking things a little bit slower, you can make sure that you are not giving off that desperation vibe that so many other men end up giving off.
3) Variety in your relationships can allow you to get a real taste of what you really want in a woman.
This is another key reason why taking a relationship slow can be a good thing. Rushing into a relationship also usually means making a commitment very quickly, and that can be bad if you don't have a lot of experience in dating. You need to gain some experience in order to really get a taste of what attributes you are really fond of in a woman and the slower you go, the less likely you will end up settling down too soon without getting that taste of variety that you need to have.
These are all very good reasons why it can be a good thing to take things slow with women when it comes to relationships. Keep in mind that although your feelings for a woman is one today... you may not feel that way tomorrow.
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